"I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquuers his enemies;
for the hardest victory is the victory over self."

"While we may not be able to control all that happens to us,
we CAN control what happens inside us.
~Benjamin Franklin

"He who conquers his anger has conquered an enemy."
~German Proverb

How can you have any kind of work ethic, or any cooperation without self control? Besides that, without self-control, you cannot remain loyal and you're liable to lose friends. Having self control, means being responsible and it's part of maturity. I tell students that to be responsible is being response-able, that means being able to control your RESPONSE to anything that happens and anything that anyone else says or does.

"When you lose control of your emotions, when your self-discipline breaks down, your judgement and common sense suffer. How can you perform at your best when you are using poor judgement?

In the many years before we won a championship I overcame disappointment by not living in the past. To do better in the future you have to work on the "right now." Dwelling in the past prevents doing something in the present.

Complaining, whining, making excuses just keeps you out of the present.

That's where self-control comes in. Self-control keeps you in the present.

Strive to maintain self-control." ~Coach Wooden

You may hear me preach about how part of being responsible is being response-able, in other words, being able to control how you respond. You won't always have much control over circumstances, and you never have any control over how other people behave, but you always have control over how you choose to respond to people and circumstances.

In cheerleading, having self control sometimes means, cooperating with squadmates during a practice, game, or rally that you're not getting along with so well outside of practice, games, or rallies.

It often means leaving your "baggage" in your locker when you come to practice, game, or rally. This isn't always easy- family problems, relationship problems, grades, friends, health issues, PMS, etc. can all make it hard to be cheerful or energetic. But during practice, you owe it to your squad to work your hardest. At games and rallies, you owe it to the team and the fans to do your pest to get them fired up and promote positive energy and spirit. Sometimes that may mean acting until you get through it.

Self control doesn't mean bottling everything up all the time. Everybody needs to let go once in a while, but learning self control means finding appropriate times and ways to deal with your issues. That's not only being responsible, it's a mark of maturity.

You don't have to be a Vulcan or a robot, emotions can be valid and its certainly healthy to be in touch with your emotions- HOWEVER, emotions can cloud your judgement and lead to mistakes or worse, injury- not to mention hurt others and damage relationships. If you're going to base your actions on what needs to be done and what's best for everyone in stead of reacting or over-reacting to situations, you need to keep your feelings in check.